Babai s\u00eb bashku me t\u00eb birin e tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat diku af\u00ebr Tetov\u00ebs kishin rrahur t\u00eb bij\u00ebn, vajz\u00ebn e vetme t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb tyre, nd\u00ebrkaq arsyeja e rrahjes kishte qen\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak se sipas tyre, vajza kishte prekur nderin e familjes. Deri k\u00ebtu jemi n\u00eb rregull, n\u00eb fakt nuk jemi n\u00eb rregull, por d\u00ebshiroj q\u00eb shkrimin ta fokusoj tek nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb e zhyt edhe m\u00eb thell\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ngjarje, por jo vet\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
Kush merret me gazetari e di se n\u00eb kumtesat ditore t\u00eb policis\u00eb, informacioni n\u00eb lidhje me ngjarjet \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i pak\u00ebt, thjesht jepen inicialet e t\u00eb akuzuarve dhe viktim\u00ebs, si dhe theksohet vepra e kryer. N\u00eb disa raste nuk theksohet as vepra, thjesht sh\u00ebnohet neni i cili \u00ebsht\u00eb thyer. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00eb rastet t\u00eb cilat prekin \u201cnderin\u201d e nj\u00eb familjeje, si ajo e lartp\u00ebrmendur, kam r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb konkluzion se fare nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme q\u00eb t\u00eb jepen m\u00eb shum\u00eb detaje, sepse shqiptar\u00ebt edhe n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se nuk ja kan\u00eb haberin se p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb (nuk) b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb, ata megjithat\u00eb e dijn\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ka ndodhur, kur ka ndodhur, si ka ndodhur dhe me sa plumba e si duhet vrar\u00eb vajza, e d\u00ebshirueshme do ishte q\u00eb t\u00eb goditet n\u00eb lule t\u00eb ballit dhe gjaku i saj do sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb si \u201cdetergjent\u201d p\u00ebr t\u00eb pastruar nderin e st\u00ebrgjyshit, gjyshit, babait si dhe familjes t\u00eb cil\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen do e krijoj\u00eb burri i familjes, i biri.<\/p>\n
Ky lajm ishte publikuar diku n\u00eb nj\u00eb portal n\u00eb \u201eFejsbuk\u201d. Vini re, komentuesit vazhdojn\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb ngjarje t\u00eb mos ken\u00eb asnj\u00eb informacion p\u00ebrpos faktit se dy burra kan\u00eb dhunuar familjaren e tyre.\u00a0Muzbajdin<\/strong>, quhej nj\u00ebri q\u00eb kishte komentuar dhe q\u00eb n\u00eb fakt edhe pse nuk i dinte sakt\u00eb as inicialet e vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb dhunuar, ai e dinte sa t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr e vesh fustanin vajza kur e pin kafen e m\u00ebngjesit dhe me \u00e7far\u00eb drita ndri\u00e7ohen lokalet t\u00eb cilat i frekuenton ajo, nd\u00ebrkaq kishte shtuar se vajz\u00ebs sigurisht m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti i shijojn\u00eb pijet t\u00eb cilat kan\u00eb shum\u00eb alkool, interesante edhe kjo, Muzbajdini fantazin\u00eb e tij n\u00eb fakt e kishte p\u00ebrfunduar me fraz\u00ebn bot\u00ebrisht t\u00eb njohur, \u201esi e ka lyp\u00eb, e paska gjet\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n Albani<\/strong>\u00a0nga ana tjet\u00ebr, i cili at\u00eb nat\u00eb jam i sigurt se ka b\u00ebr\u00eb gjumin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij sepse komenti i tij kishte marr\u00eb numrin m\u00eb t\u00eb madh t\u00eb p\u00eblqimeve, ai edhe pse jetonte diku larg Maqedonis\u00eb s\u00eb Veriut, arriti t\u00eb m\u00eb mahnit\u00eb me \u201cinformacionet e shumta\u201d q\u00eb i kishte p\u00ebr nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb t\u00eb dhunuar, t\u00eb cil\u00ebs vet\u00ebm inicialet i’a dinte nd\u00ebrkaq se ishte dhunuar \u2013 kishte lexuar diku n\u00eb \u201eFejsbuk\u201d. Ai n\u00eb fakt ishte i njoftuar p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien q\u00eb viktima e kishte me Zotin, k\u00ebshtu duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se ajo dhe shumica e vajzave t\u00eb cilat sipas tij e marrin at\u00eb \u201eq\u00eb e meritojn\u00eb\u201d nuk kan\u00eb as din e as iman, se p\u00ebr t\u00eb r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb sexhde, as q\u00eb b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb. Albani ishte g\u00ebzuar shum\u00eb p\u00ebr dhun\u00ebn e ushtruar ndaj vajz\u00ebs, sepse kjo vajz\u00eb dhe shum\u00eb tjera si ajo \u00e7do dit\u00eb e hidh\u00ebrojn\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb cilin Albani shum\u00eb e beson dhe adhuron, Zotin… kush e di se sa zili do i kishin prij\u00ebsit fetar\u00eb Albanit.<\/p>\n Venhari<\/strong>, shum\u00eb i irrituar, nervoz, me shkronja t\u00eb m\u00ebdha kishte l\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb koment me rreth 3 paragrafe, atij nuk i\u2019a konceptonte truri se si kjo vajz\u00eb, e cilas sipas tij, po citoj \u201e\u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb kurv\u00eb e prishur\u201d kishte kaluar me aq pak. Ai kishte shpjeguar format e tortur\u00ebs q\u00eb do i kishte ushtruar n\u00eb rast se do ishte n\u00eb vend t\u00eb dhunuesve t\u00eb lartp\u00ebrmendur. Mir\u00eb q\u00eb e kan\u00eb rrahur, por, si nuk e rrah\u00ebn edhe pak? P\u00ebrfundoi komentin ai.<\/p>\n …dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr shum\u00eb historit\u00eb ku shqiptar\u00ebt vendosin t\u00eb vrasin p\u00ebr s\u00eb dyti her\u00eb viktimat gra, k\u00ebshtu duke k\u00ebrkuar \u00e7do mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb faji n\u00eb fund t\u00eb dit\u00ebs t\u00eb jet\u00eb tek grat\u00eb, sepse si popull jemi t\u00eb paaft\u00eb t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb q\u00eb jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb fakt nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb, dhe k\u00ebshtu g\u00ebnjejm\u00eb veten se bota \u00ebsht\u00eb fush\u00eb me lule dhe kur di\u00e7ka jo e k\u00ebndshme i ndodh nj\u00eb personi tjet\u00ebr, ne besojm\u00eb (apo duam t\u00eb besojm\u00eb) se ai person duhet t\u00eb kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb merituar nj\u00eb fat t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n P\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb optimist\u00ebt, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt fajin e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb me mikroskop vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ta atribuojn\u00eb aty ku nuk duhet, kam nj\u00eb lajm t\u00eb keq! Jo, fatkeq\u00ebsisht, bota nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb \u2013 dhe ti, motra jote si dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb dashurit tuaj nes\u00ebr mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb viktimat e radh\u00ebs t\u00eb tragjedive. Jo, as pantallonat e gjata, as shamia dhe asnj\u00eb veshje tjet\u00ebr nuk ju mbron nga mund\u00ebsia potenciale q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e k\u00ebqija t\u00eb ju ndodhin edhe juve. Andaj, ideja se njer\u00ebzit marrin at\u00eb q\u00eb meritojn\u00eb, mund t\u00eb mbroj\u00eb iluzionin tuaj se gj\u00ebrat e tmerrshme nuk kan\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019ju ndodhur, deri sa di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb t\u00eb ju ndodh\u00eb.<\/p>\n Koncepti i \u201efaj\u00ebsimit t\u00eb viktim\u00ebs\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb m\u00eb i theksuar kur kemi t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb me krime kund\u00ebr grave, p\u00ebr shembull, kur dikush grabitet, askush nuk pyet se pse ky person kishte veshur tesha dhe bizhuteri t\u00eb shtrenjta, apo kur dikush goditet nga vetura, askush nuk faj\u00ebson viktim\u00ebn se pse ai\/ajo i doli vetur\u00ebs p\u00ebrpara, si dhe kur dikujt i vjedhin vetur\u00ebn, nuk e faj\u00ebsojm\u00eb se pse ai person vozit aq vetur\u00eb t\u00eb shtrenj\u00eb n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, kur nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunohet, k\u00ebtu \u201clind\u201d d\u00ebshira jon\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb m\u00eb investigues dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb parashtruar shum\u00eb e shum\u00eb pyetje.<\/p>\n Andaj, si shoq\u00ebri duhet t\u00eb ndalojm\u00eb s\u00eb ushqyeri k\u00ebt\u00eb \u201ckultur\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunimit\u201d ku viktima i ka fajet \u201e\u00e7far\u00eb kishte veshur?\u201d, ku veprimet e burrave arsyetohen vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr faktin se jan\u00eb burra \u201eburrat ngelin burra\u201d, kultur\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebn shaka seksiste dhe toleron sjellje abuzive. \u00cbsht\u00eb koha q\u00eb viktimave t’ju japim kurajo dhe z\u00eb, sepse e vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb duke faj\u00ebsuar viktimat \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb u lejojm\u00eb abuzuesve q\u00eb edhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb veprime t\u00eb tilla t\u00eb cilat rrezikojn\u00eb vajzat dhe grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n Kjo kolumn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shkruar nga redaktori i \u201eMoll\u00ebkuqja.mk”, Ardit Ramadani p\u00ebr projektin “Youth Combating Hate Speech”, i cili zbatohet nga Instituti Liberal Alternativ dhe financohet nga Ministria e Jashtme Federale Gjermane.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Babai s\u00eb bashku me t\u00eb birin e tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb fshat diku af\u00ebr Tetov\u00ebs kishin rrahur t\u00eb bij\u00ebn, vajz\u00ebn e vetme t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb tyre, nd\u00ebrkaq arsyeja e rrahjes kishte qen\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak se sipas tyre, vajza kishte prekur nderin e familjes. Deri k\u00ebtu jemi n\u00eb rregull, n\u00eb fakt nuk jemi n\u00eb rregull, por d\u00ebshiroj […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":387,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[135],"class_list":["post-386","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-pasoja","tag-kolumne"],"yoast_head":"\n