{"id":719,"date":"2023-10-16T12:26:48","date_gmt":"2023-10-16T12:26:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/?p=719"},"modified":"2024-10-17T13:23:48","modified_gmt":"2024-10-17T13:23:48","slug":"besarica-grate-ne-rajonet-shqipfolese-e-humbin-identitetin-pas-marteses-pse-dhe-si-ndodh-kjo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/en\/besarica-grate-ne-rajonet-shqipfolese-e-humbin-identitetin-pas-marteses-pse-dhe-si-ndodh-kjo\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201eBesarica”, grat\u00eb n\u00eb rajonet shqipfol\u00ebse e humbin identitetin pas martes\u00ebs, pse dhe si ndodh kjo?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Shum\u00eb gra humbin totalisht identitetin e tyre pas martes\u00ebs, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 nd\u00ebrrimit t\u00eb mbiemrit, ata nuk thirren as n\u00eb emrin e tyre. P\u00ebr shembull, n\u00eb disa rajone shqipfol\u00ebse, por kryesisht n\u00eb rajonin e Pollogut,\u00a0n\u00ebse burri quhet Besar, bashk\u00ebshortja e tij automatikisht do t\u00eb thirret \u201cBesarica\u201d<\/strong>, gj\u00eb q\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptoj\u00eb se ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb subjekt n\u00eb vete, por dikush q\u00eb i p\u00ebrket totalisht bashk\u00ebshortit t\u00eb saj, pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb pron\u00eb e tij. N\u00ebse burri quhet Nehat, bashk\u00ebshortja \u201cNehatica\u201d, Ibrahim, bashk\u00ebshortja \u201cIbrahimica\u201d.<\/p>\n

Rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt e k\u00ebsaj tradite gjenden tek patriarkati. Ndon\u00ebse si fenomen \u00ebsht\u00eb reduktuar n\u00ebp\u00ebr gjenerata, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb ende e pranishme, sidomos n\u00eb moshat m\u00eb t\u00eb vjetra. Aktivist\u00ebt me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt bisedoi\u00a0Moll\u00ebkuqja<\/a>\u00a0u shpreh\u00ebn shum\u00eb kritik n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Aktivistja dhe gazetarja\u00a0Dijana Toska<\/strong>\u00a0thot\u00eb se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb prej m\u00ebnyrave q\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb humbjen totale t\u00eb identitetit t\u00eb gruas. Sipas saj, q\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebn e martes\u00ebs kur babai i vajz\u00ebs ia zgjat\u00eb dor\u00ebn babait t\u00eb djalit e jep p\u00ebqlimin me fjal\u00ebt tradicionale \u201crobi yt e gjaku im\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u201cAndaj, q\u00eb n\u00eb dit\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj si grua e dikujt, vajza shqiptare zhvishet nga personaliteti i saj, emri e mbiemri i saj duke u rob\u00ebruar si qenie njer\u00ebzore pa guxuar q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb t\u00eb drejtat e saja elementare p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb dinjitetshme.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Sociologia\u00a0Drita Memeti\u00a0<\/strong>konsideron se n\u00eb rastet kur vajz\u00ebs i nd\u00ebrrohet emri, vendoset n\u00eb pik\u00ebpyetje i t\u00ebr\u00eb identiteti i saj. Sipas saj, identeti p\u00ebrcaktohet me at\u00eb se kush je, \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebn unike, kush jan\u00eb vlerat e tua dhe se rrjedhimisht, shtimi i prapashtes\u00ebs \u201cica\u201d n\u00eb emrin e bashk\u00ebshrtit e b\u00ebn gruan q\u00eb si e till\u00eb t\u00eb njihet n\u00eb gjith\u00eb rrethin shoq\u00ebror, gj\u00eb q\u00eb sipas saj \u00ebsht\u00eb diskriminuese.<\/p>\n

\u201cMb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb tradit\u00ebn shqiptare vajz\u00ebs (tanim\u00eb nuses) nuk i \u00ebsht\u00eb drejtuar askush me emrin e saj por n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit. N\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn jan\u00eb t\u00eb njohura edhe situatat kur edhe n\u00ebse dy motra jan\u00eb martuar n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn familje, te sht\u00ebpia e bashk\u00ebshortit nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebs kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb obliguara q\u00eb mos i drejtohen n\u00eb em\u00ebr por t’i drejtohen n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet emrit t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortit.\u201d<\/p>\n

Megjithat\u00eb, fol\u00ebset tona theksojn\u00eb se n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme ky fenomen \u00ebsht\u00eb zvog\u00ebluar.<\/strong><\/h5>\n

\u201cNuk dua t\u00eb besoj se te gjeneratat e reja kjo tradit\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrcillet ose t\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahet.\u00a0Ka ndryshime pozitive si trajtohej gruaja shqiptare n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dhe si trajtohet sot n\u00eb familje e shoq\u00ebri, ka ndryshuar sistemi dhe mentaliteti patriarkal, rob\u00ebreshat \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb po shnd\u00ebrrohen n\u00eb luanesha<\/strong>\u00a0dhe ky revolucion i b\u00ebn\u00eb nder\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm gruas por gjith\u00eb kombit. Arsimimi, pun\u00ebsimi, pavar\u00ebsia materiale gruas shqiptare i kan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb fuqin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur lirit\u00eb dhe t\u00eb drejtat e saja elementare\u201d, tha\u00a0Dijana<\/strong>\u00a0Toska.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cE r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ka progres, gjeneratat e reja kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb hapa t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme drejt ndryshimit t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj situate duke filluar k\u00ebshtu nga m\u00ebnyra se si bashk\u00ebshorti i drejtohet bashk\u00ebshortes s\u00eb tij p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar m\u00eb pastaj te rrethi familjar t\u00eb cil\u00ebt marrin p\u00ebr baz\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si bashk\u00ebshorti trajton bashk\u00ebshorten dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebto rrethana nuk llogaritet e ndaluar ose e turpshme q\u00eb nuses ti drejtohen me emrin e saj dhe jo me prapashtesa\u201d, tha\u00a0Drita Memeti<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebrskaj k\u00ebtij fenomeni, diskutim i hapur \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe ndryshimi i mbiemrit t\u00eb grave pas martes\u00ebs. N\u00eb Maqedonin\u00eb e Veriut, m\u00eb s\u00eb shpeshti gruaja e merr mbiemrin e burrit ose mbiemrit t\u00eb vet ia shton mbiemrin e burrit.<\/p>\n