{"id":595,"date":"2024-03-01T12:08:42","date_gmt":"2024-03-01T12:08:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/?p=595"},"modified":"2024-11-14T09:08:51","modified_gmt":"2024-11-14T09:08:51","slug":"virgjeria-si-konstrukt-shoqeror-turp-per-burrat-krenari-per-grate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/en\/virgjeria-si-konstrukt-shoqeror-turp-per-burrat-krenari-per-grate\/","title":{"rendered":"Virgj\u00ebria si konstrukt shoq\u00ebror: Turp p\u00ebr burrat, krenari p\u00ebr grat\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Grat\u00eb dikur detyroheshin t\u2019i tregojn\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00ebt e gjakosur n\u00eb nat\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs, pasi sipas tyre kjo do t\u00eb \u2018v\u00ebrtetonte\u2019 se nusja e re s\u2019kishte kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale m\u00eb her\u00ebt. Obsesioni i shoq\u00ebris\u00eb me virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i kahmotsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr shembull, neni\u00a031<\/strong>\u00a0i Kanunit t\u00eb Lek\u00eb Dukagjinit thot\u00eb: \u2018Po s\u2019u pru grueja si duhet te burri, kanuja i nep leje me i pre thekun a flokun e me lshue..\u2019, q\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton se n\u00ebse himeni i nus\u00ebs nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb elastik, ajo duhej divorcuar q\u00eb n\u00eb nat\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebrkund\u00ebr q\u00eb praktika e \u00e7ar\u00e7afit dhe doket patriarkale sot nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb t\u00eb mos qenurit e \u2018virgj\u00ebr\u2019 vijon t\u00eb ngel\u00eb turp p\u00ebr vajzat nd\u00ebrsa krenari ose domosdoshm\u00ebri p\u00ebr djemt\u00eb, n\u00ebse mendojn\u00eb t\u2019iu p\u00ebrshtaten normave shoq\u00ebrore se si duhet t\u00eb duket nj\u00eb burr\u00eb, me dy r.<\/p>\n

Kur morali vendoset mes k\u00ebmb\u00ebve t\u00eb gruas nd\u00ebrsa krenaria mes k\u00ebmb\u00ebve t\u00eb burrave<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Praktika e t\u00eb menduarit n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy gjinit\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rrast burrat dhe grat\u00eb. Kjo pasi shoq\u00ebria djemt\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb re, i vendos n\u00ebn presion q\u00eb t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale sepse ndryshe, s\u2019mund t\u00eb konsiderohen burra.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb \u2018cool\u2019 dhe i pranuesh\u00ebm nga shoq\u00ebria, si djal n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb adoleshenc\u00ebs duhet q\u00eb patjet\u00ebr t\u00eb kishe kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. K\u00ebto standarde t\u00eb dyfishta reflektohen n\u00eb gjetjet e organizatave joqeveritare.<\/p>\n

HERA<\/a>\u00a0pyeti t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e mosh\u00ebs\u00a015<\/strong>\u00a0vje\u00e7e n\u00ebse kan\u00eb kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, p\u00ebrderisa\u00a036<\/strong>\u00a0p\u00ebr qind e djemve ishin p\u00ebrgjigjur me po, vet\u00ebm\u00a03<\/strong>\u00a0p\u00ebr qind e vajzave kan\u00eb pohuar se kan\u00eb kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebrpos mos-p\u00ebrputhjes s\u00eb t\u00eb dh\u00ebnave, kjo flet p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb djemt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u dukur m\u00eb t\u00eb pranuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb, jan\u00eb t\u00eb prirur t\u00eb thon\u00eb se kan\u00eb pasur eksperienca seksuale, edhe at\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn\u00a015<\/strong>\u00a0vje\u00e7e. E kund\u00ebrta ndodh\u00eb p\u00ebr vajzat.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb nj\u00eb djal i pranuesh\u00ebm, duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb seksualisht aktiv<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Muhamed Veliu \u00ebsht\u00eb psikolog, p\u00ebr \u2018Moll\u00ebkuqja\u2019 p\u00ebrmend disa prej faktor\u00ebve q\u00eb ushqejn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kultur\u00eb t\u00eb roleve gjinore dhe standardeve t\u00eb dyfishta.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cKy presion \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb prezent te djemt\u00eb, dhe nis n\u00eb faz\u00ebn e hershme t\u00eb pubertetit. Presioni buron nga perceptimi se djemt\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb jet\u00eb aktive seksuale n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e re jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vlefsh\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb pranuar. Meq\u00eb identifikimi me grupin \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb, t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb leht\u00eb manipulohen nga ky presion\u201d, thekson Veliu.<\/p>\n

Kjo sipas tij mund t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb keq n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin seksual, pasi ky presion sipas tij i nxit t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrmarrin aktivitete seksuale pa qen\u00eb t\u00eb informuar rreth pasojave dhe pa u ndjer\u00eb psikologjikisht t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n

T\u00eb rinjt\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks kur t\u00eb jen\u00eb gati, jo kur t\u2019ju thot\u00eb shoq\u00ebria<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Parakusht p\u00ebr kryerje t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve seksuale duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb ekzistimi paraprak i \u2018p\u00eblqimit\u2019 mes pal\u00ebve, t\u00eb qenurit gati dhe i informuar mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr mbrojtje nga s\u00ebmundjet seksualisht t\u00eb transmetueshme.<\/p>\n

Nga HERA p\u00ebr \u2018Moll\u00ebkuqja<\/a>\u2019 thon\u00eb se kultura q\u00eb i nxit djemt\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb seksualisht aktiv se s\u2019b\u00ebn mund t\u2019i ekspozoj\u00eb ata drejt s\u00ebmundjeve seksualisht t\u00eb transmetueshme.<\/p>\n

\u201cP\u00eblqimi \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm p\u00ebr djemt\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt n\u00eb nj\u00eb kultur\u00eb “t\u00eb ma\u00e7oizmit” ndjejn\u00eb gjithashtu presionin p\u00ebr t\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale m\u00eb her\u00ebt vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t’u pranuar nga bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt e tyre, duke u ekspozuar k\u00ebshtu ndaj sjelljeve t\u00eb rrezikshme\u201d, thon\u00eb nga HERA.<\/p>\n

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\u201cProblemi \u00ebsht\u00eb te arsimimi dhe standardet e dyfishta sipas t\u00eb cilave rriten vajzat dhe djemt\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb kemi djem dhe vajza t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb pamje dhe kuptim krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm p\u00ebr bot\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn jetojn\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr d\u00ebmin e shkaktuar nga d\u00ebrgimi i nj\u00eb mesazhi p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn, dhe mesazhi krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb ndrys\u00ebm p\u00ebr djalin, se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme dhe si t\u00eb sillet\u201d, thon\u00eb nga HERA.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb Maqedonin\u00eb e Veriut si rezultat i konstrukteve shoq\u00ebrore \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm edhe procesi i rivirgj\u00ebrimit n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin kalojn\u00eb vajzat\/grat\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i k\u00ebnaqur apetitet patriarkale dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201clar\u00eb m\u00ebkatin\u201d n\u00ebse kan\u00eb pasur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale para se t\u00eb futen n\u00eb lidhje apo n\u00eb martes\u00eb me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n