{"id":565,"date":"2024-04-06T11:47:24","date_gmt":"2024-04-06T11:47:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/?p=565"},"modified":"2024-10-14T11:50:30","modified_gmt":"2024-10-14T11:50:30","slug":"lotet-skane-fuqi-tju-heqin-epitetin-burre-profesionistet-mos-shprehja-e-emocioneve-shkakton-probleme","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mollekuqja.coreup.co\/en\/lotet-skane-fuqi-tju-heqin-epitetin-burre-profesionistet-mos-shprehja-e-emocioneve-shkakton-probleme\/","title":{"rendered":"Lot\u00ebt s’kan\u00eb fuqi t’ju heqin epitetin ‘burr\u00eb’, profesionist\u00ebt: Mos shprehja e emocioneve shkakton probleme"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cBurrat nuk qajn\u00eb\u201d, \u00e7do burr\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij thuaj se i ka d\u00ebgjuar k\u00ebto fjal\u00eb, sidomos gjat\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb. Kjo fraz\u00eb p\u00ebr shum\u00eb prej tyre b\u00ebhet penges\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb e cila frenon n\u00eb shprehjen e emocioneve dhe ndjenjave n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre.<\/p>\n

Qarja nga ana e burrave dhe djemve n\u00eb shum\u00eb kultura konsiderohet ende si tabu, sepse shoq\u00ebria ka krijuar perceptimin se burrat duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb fort\u00eb\u201d dhe mos t\u00eb qajn\u00eb sepse kjo paraqet dob\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n

Raporte<\/a>\u00a0t\u00eb ndryshme radhisin disa arsye se pse djemt\u00eb dhe burrat mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tyre: mendojn\u00eb se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb burr\u00ebrore, ndjejn\u00eb presion p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00ebt, mendojn\u00eb se problemet e tyre jan\u00eb t\u00eb pazgjidhshme, nuk kan\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb shprehur at\u00eb q\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb, e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb hapur me miqt\u00eb, p\u00ebrvojat e tyre t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb e b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, preferojn\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lirojn\u00eb ndjenjat e tyre p\u00ebrmes veprimeve.<\/p>\n

V\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia n\u00eb njohjen dhe diskutimin e emocioneve mund t\u00eb shfaqet n\u00eb nivele subklinike te burrat q\u00eb p\u00ebrputhen me normat specifike kulturore t\u00eb” burr\u00ebris\u00eb”, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb besimi se trishtimi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb emocion fem\u00ebror. Kjo gjendje njihet si\u00a0aleksitimia normative mashkullore<\/a>\u00a0dhe mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pranishme n\u00eb t\u00eb dy gjinit\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr\u00a0p\u00ebrpunimin e emocioneve<\/a>, ka pritshm\u00ebri t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebr burrat dhe grat\u00eb. P\u00ebr shkak se grat\u00eb shpesh shihen si “t\u00eb ndjeshme”, \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme nga shoq\u00ebria q\u00eb ato t\u00eb shprehin ndjenjat e tyre, si trishtimi ose frika. Por burrat, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shihen si t\u00eb fort\u00eb dhe t\u00eb patrembur, nuk inkurajohen t\u00eb shprehin emocionet e tyre nga jasht\u00eb.<\/p>\n

K\u00ebto norma kulturore dhe stereotipe gjinore kan\u00eb qarkulluar prej brezash dhe mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebmshme, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr burrat. Shtypja emocioneve dhe ndjenjave mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb tep\u00ebr e d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin mendor t\u00eb nj\u00eb djali apo burri dhe sjell pas nj\u00eb serr\u00eb pasojash negative.<\/p>\n

Sociologia Drita Memeti thekson se q\u00eb nga lindja djemt\u00eb socializohen p\u00ebr t\u00eb shmangur shprehjen e emocioneve duke i m\u00ebsuar ato se shfaqja e po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtave do t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebnte dob\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cRrethi social nuk e pranon pozitivisht nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb qaj\u00eb, g\u00ebzohet, turp\u00ebrohet, dashurohet, frik\u00ebsohet. Djemve dhe burrave u \u00ebsht\u00eb ngjeshur nj\u00eb barr\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb q\u00eb duhet ta mbartin mbi supe. Ato me \u00e7do kusht duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb sepse n\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn do t\u00eb gjykohen duke u etiketuar me em\u00ebrtime nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet\u201d, tha Memeti.<\/p>\n

Ajo shtoi se normat gjinore t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuara kulturalisht ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb akumulimin dhe shtypjen e emocioneve, t\u00eb cilat si t\u00eb pa shfaqura krijojn\u00eb stres te djemt\u00eb dhe burrat.<\/p>\n

\u201cI t\u00ebr\u00eb ky frustrim mund t\u00eb manifestohet me sjellje agresive, t\u00eb pakontrolluara dhe shfaqje t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs shpesh her\u00eb kundrejt gjinis\u00eb s\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u201d, tha Memeti.<\/p>\n

Shtypja e emocioneve, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb fshehjen e lot\u00ebve mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e pash\u00ebndetshme dhe t\u00eb sjell\u00eb pasoja. Nj\u00eb\u00a0studim i vitit 2013<\/a>\u00a0e lidhi shtypjen e emocioneve me nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb s\u00ebmundjesh fiziologjike. E megjithat\u00eb, nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr\u00a0p\u00ebrmbledhje e vitit 2018<\/a>\u00a0lidh “frenimin emocional” me depresionin, stresin dhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht te njer\u00ebzit me\u00a0\u00e7rregullime t\u00eb personalitetit.<\/a><\/p>\n

Shtypja e emocioneve mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb depresion, ankth, \u00e7rregullim bipolar, skizofreni, ushqim i \u00e7rregulluar, nd\u00ebrsa ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr burrat mund t\u00eb rris\u00eb rrezikun e tyre p\u00ebr\u00a0vet\u00ebvrasje<\/a>. Burrat kan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr gjasa t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje sesa grat\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Psikologia\u00a0Fatime<\/strong>\u00a0Ziberi<\/strong>\u00a0thekson se mosshfaqja e emocioneve dhe mos qarja n\u00eb aspektin psikologjik \u00ebsht\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme pasi mund\u00ebson p\u00ebrjetimin adekuat dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm emocional te burrat.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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\u201cPresioni shoq\u00ebror i shoq\u00ebruar me frustrime personale nga pamund\u00ebsia e shprehjes s\u00eb emocioneve shkakton probleme dhe shqet\u00ebsime psikologjike q\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve emocionet q\u00eb shtypen dhe bllokohen m\u00eb von\u00eb jan\u00eb burim i \u00e7rregullimeve emocionale dhe fitohet bindja se meshkujt nuk e arrijn\u00eb dot pjekurin\u00eb dhe inteligjenc\u00ebn emocionale\u201d, tha Ziberi,<\/p>\n

Ajo thot\u00eb se \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb se normale t\u00eb shprehen emocionet pavar\u00ebsisht gjinis\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Sipas\u00a0Shkoll\u00ebs Mjek\u00ebsore t\u00eb Harvardit<\/a>, e qara konsiderohet e sh\u00ebndetshme pasi \u00e7liron stresin dhe dhimbjen emocionale dhe ju mban mend\u00ebrisht m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm. T\u00eb mos qash do t’ju b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb ndiheni t\u00eb mbytur nga brenda duke ju prekur mend\u00ebrisht, emocionalisht dhe fizikisht.<\/p>\n

T\u00eb qarit sipas\u00a0AADAR<\/a>\u00a0tregon se t\u00eb dyja gjinit\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb barabarta, jep shembull t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyer p\u00ebr t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb josh\u00ebse t\u00eb shpreh\u00ebsh nj\u00eb an\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb, ndihmon n\u00eb leht\u00ebsimin e ankthit dhe t\u00eb qash t\u00eb b\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Ekspert\u00ebt sugjerojn\u00eb q\u00eb shfaqja e emocioneve duhet t\u00eb normalizohet si dhe vizitat te psikolog\u00ebt nuk duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb tabu.<\/p>\n